(Olympian Michelle Carter is pictured along with me) 

 I know it’s been a few weeks, but I’m back! God is Awesome! The last blog post “No Sex in the City” has created a little buzz. Please check out the new blog http://nosexnthecity.wordpress.com/ to read about other fabulous women who have chosen to wait to have sex. I can’t wait to get back to this topic as I was a call-in guest on a talk show and one of the co hosts before I came on said “If I meet a virgin, I want to tell her to just grow up” Really??  You know I’ll comment on this….OK on to today’s topic… 

  We’ve all been there. At work, at the mall, at a restaurant and noticed another woman looking at us, sizing us up, or seeming to talk about us. And I’m sure our thought was “What is she looking at” And some of us have even confronted the woman in a hostile way. Why are ladies of all ages so rude to each other? In my opinion, I believe ladies are the most disrespectful creatures in the world to each other at times. How many times have we been with a girlfriend and saw a woman walk by whose outfit wasn’t to our liking and we made sure to discuss it: 

 “Why is she wearing that?” 

 “She knows she does not have the figure for that.” 

 “Who does she think she is?” 

 Why does it matter? If she is comfortable in what she is wearing, let her work it! Now trust me, I know there are just some outfits, on which we must comment..after all we are ladies..but must we do it all of the time and so disrespectfully? 

What about this one:  

True Story-happened to a friend—A co worker approached her and said in a very condescending tone “Oh, I see you are in all black today with your black heels—hmmm…I guess….. oh and do you have your lip gloss, maybe you should put some on” 

OR what about this one—In working with teenage girls, I have heard the following phrase literally over 100 times “She better keep my name out of her mouth” Do you know we are talked about daily and can’t control what others say? 

  When was the last time you gave another lady, you didn’t know, a compliment? We are quick to talk about each other. Why?? I’ve been guilty of this disrespectful and pointless type of discussion. Is it that we are jealous of one another? Are we competing? And if so, WHY?? Instead of competing, how about we begin supporting. As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another-Proverbs 27:1 NIV. Ladies, we go through so much as women that we don’t need to add this to the stresses of our life. Think about how much good can come from women working together. 

  Has anyone else noticed this?? Generally, if a man cheats on his woman and the girlfriend has the opportunity to meet the other woman who she previously didn’t know, why does she jump on the other woman? It seems that the man, at times, gets off the hook. WHY? I want to encourage all ladies of all ages to watch how and what we say about others and to one another and stop being so judgemental. So if this is applies to you, STOP it, or try to stop. If this isn’t you, take the opportunity to encourage someone to stop it! 

 Ephesians 4:29 – Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (NIV) 

  On to the infamous—“I just don’t get along with females” How many of us have said or know someone who has said this OR “All of my friends are guys.” OR “Females don’t like me”  Well my response to this is what about you repels females from you? If one believes no females like her, keep in mind that the common denominator is you! So we need to look within. OUCH- I know I am stepping on some toes…but it’s all good! 

  And one last thing: Males DO notice us doing this. I have spoken to a few men who have asked me “Why are women so rude to each other?” Or “I have seen yall size each other up” 

  Ladies, just continue to recognize that you are God’s Couture and the ladies around you are ALSO God’s Couture—so why would you want to disrespect another fabulous woman? 

Love each other with genuine affection,* and take delight in honoring each other.  Romans 12:10 

Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters.* Be tender-hearted, and keep a humble attitude. 1 Peter 3 

  Today’s Nugget: Make it a point to compliment 2 strangers of the same sex within the next week. 

  Until next time…Empower someone and make them smile or laugh