Yes, it says NO, Sex in the city. I’ve been debating on when to post this. No time like the present. Despite what the media portrays and what many think- everyone is NOT having relations 🙂 I am proud to say that I am a virgin. Yes, you read that correctly. This is not to say anything about those who are not, but I feel that it is imperative to get the word out to young ladies and gentlemen and maybe not so young ladies and gentlemen that there are others who have chosen to wait. I thought, media and music are consumed with sex and people are very comfortable speaking about this topic; why shouldn’t we be as confident talking about not having sex- As it is supposed to be for the context of marriage. Someone recently told me “What, there are like 100 virgins in the world” REALLY! I guess the 100 of us should get capes and create a secret V-Club society 🙂 To put that number into perspective, there are more than 100 countries. This post is to encourage those who are virgins, those who have had sex but have decided to wait, and those who are thinking about waiting, prayerfully until they are married. This post is to also enlighten those who believe there are only 100 virgins in the world.

Why am I a virgin?  I was on a relationship panel last year and the moderator thought it was so strange that I was a virgin. The first question of the night went like this ” So Miss Virgin, how did that happen?” my response was “You mean Dr. Virgin…” But honestly, I didn’t want a child while I was in high school and in college I began to realize who I was in Christ and it just wasn’t worth it to me. I began to apply this analogy—I am saving this gift for my husband. But not just any gift, a very special one.

Has it been difficult? No, not really.  But I have had some interesting offers; I have had someone try to negotiate my virginity, I’ve been told “If it’s not your husband, it better be me” I’ve had some uhhh other unique offers, that I won’t get into.

 OK, OK I have a secret—Get ready!!…GET READY

I’m not the only one and I personally know others! 🙂 I know other women who are virgins, others who waited until they were married (like my fabulous sister) and even more who decided to stop having sex, which I believe is quite difficult. These women are all beautiful, intelligent, and funny and you will get to know some of them in a new blog series titled “No Sex in the City” that will start in Feb. 2010! I’m excited for this as we all have had different experiences but we have this in common. I am even more excited for you to get to know these women of God who are university administrators, lawyers, PhD candidates, nurses and more! Work it Ladies! While being a virgin is just one part of us, it doesn’t define us-what defines us is who we are in Christ!

Oh, I have another secret…….I know some men who are virgins! OH my goodness!

So, to my teens and young 20 somethings and others—Everyone is NOT doing it! And according to many women with whom I have worked- They stated that sex is nothing to play with as ladies get emotionally connected and are more prone to make some illogical decisions after having sex outside of the context of marriage.

So ladies, keep the ‘blessings’ covered up! And remember that you are God’s Couture and it is great to wait!  Look out for the new No Sex In the City Blog.

Today’s Nugget: Often times we spend so much time focusing on negative aspects of life, that we forget to recognize the accomplishments of our friends and loved ones. I would like for you to take the time to encourage and compliment 3 friends/ loved ones.  Let them know that you are proud of them. Let’s do more encouraging than discouraging!

Until next time…Empower someone and make someone smile or laugh 🙂