The advice in this post was given by LL Cool J—Ladies Love Cool JADEN, pictured above!  OK OK I just wanted an excuse to include this very cute picture of my nephew. Hey, I’m a proud aunt! 🙂

 Moving on…. Staying with the theme of being single, I thought this was a fitting time to share some male feedback.

 I asked the following question of some men and their answers are below:

 What advice do you have for single ladies who really want to be in a relationship and or are tired of waiting?

The answers provided are honest, insightful,  and for some frank! Enjoy!

               RESPONSE 1: Let the search be a natural process, and at the same time, let your relationship grow at its own pace. Guys & dolls, both, can tell almost immediately if there’s a stage 5 clinger on deck.  Worse is one who’s dripping with desperation.  Therefore, advancing a relationship too early can and will scare off a possible mate.   

              Secondly, consider seeking a relationship with someone around you.  Your immediate circle probably will yield someone you’d be compatible with because they hold similar interests and, probably most importantly, your friends already like him. If nothing else, it’s good practice for the next guy. 

              If that’s out of the question, you’re at your wits end and you still yearn for a passionate, loving union of friendship, then i’d suggest you buy a dog.  It’ll be more loyal to you than what’s roaming the streets late at night anyway.

Firefighter-30 years old–single 

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 RESPONSE 2:I would have to say take advantage of the opportunities before a relationship. For example, patience. If you discipline yourself to be patient before, then you’re able to do so when in a relationship. God may have you single for a reason. Find joy in that. Just another OPPORTUNITY to build your relationship with Him. Many want to be in a relationship but very few think about how they are gonna keep their relationship going when there in it. Think about Christ and what it is he may want you to do when your in it. God is preparing your mate for you. At the same time, he’s preparing you as well. Let him prepare you. Take full advantage of the relationship with HIM.

College student—21—Single

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 RESPONSE 3: Remember, your wants are good, and God’s more interested in your  well-being than you are, He knows what you NEED. Labor in prayer, but continue to  walk by faith (NOT SIGHT). There are two options to get impatient and settle, or  to live everyday thankful for what you do have, and wait to see God’s  faithfulness. One of the oldest tricks of the enemy is to focus our attention on the  itty bitty that we do not have, YET! but God know the plans that He has for you, and His plans are better than ours on our best day. 

one love, one LORD

Minister- 28 years old–married 

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 RESPONSE 4: My ultimate advice to women strongly and over-zealously desiring a relationship is to not lose themselves. I think the first key to finding a relationship is to find contentment within yourself. It is at that point, and that point only, that you can begin to weed out those who qualify and those that do not because your foundation will be much more solid. It is very easy to be overwhelmed with the rigors of finding a person suitable for a relationship without the aforementioned foundation, and more importantly, the foundation of being a Christ-driven individual. Without such a foundation, it may become increasingly difficult to decipher qualities in a partner that should and should not be accentuated. The significance that such qualities take on can be validated in 2 Corinthians 6:14. “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” As long as the motive for seeking a relationship follows such guidelines, I think relationships will cease to be viewed as a novelty and be viewed more as luxuries that are beautiful when entered into properly. Do not compromise moral integrity or virtue for anyone!!

College Student Athlete- 22-single

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 RESPONSE 5: My advice would be: To enjoy being single for as long as you can because when the time is  right, he’ll fall right into your lap and you won’t even know it.  Before you know it, you will look up and you’re in relationship just that fast.  Plus, don’t go looking for something because when you look, you will not find him.   

“Just let things flow!!!”

Entrepreneur—27 years old–single

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RESPONSE 6: “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

Tell God. Don’t focus on it too much.  Make up your mind whether you will do it the Godly way or the Worldly way.

Banker—30  years old—in a committed relationship

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RESPONSE 7: You can’t force a relationship. If you have to wait, wait. Then again, you aint gonna find a man sitting at home.

Engineer-35 years old–Single

 So, ladies what do you think? It seems that the consensus is to be patient. I hope that this provided some insight. Additionally, this advice can also be applied to men. Remember you are God’s Couture and you better work it!

To the wonderful male contributors, I want to thank you for your advice and honesty!!

 Today’s Nugget- Continuing with the previous nugget of not spending so much time on relationships we don’t have and focusing on the ones we do have–  contact (email, phone, face to face) a friend/ acquaintance AND a family member with whom you’ve not spoken in over 2 months and send a short note saying hello, I was thinking of you, pray things are well, do you have any prayer requests…or something along those lines..again you never know how a few words can positively affect someone.

 Until next time…Empower someone and make someone smile and or laugh 🙂